When I was going through the very difficult years of having an out-of-control teen, I was beside myself. I was frantic with worry, fear and unhappiness. I was often paralyzed from making decisions on what actions to take.
I am convinced that things started to turn around – and my relationship with my son began being repaired – when I realized that the way I parented was based on guilt. I constantly tried to guilt my son into behaving better.
When this finally got through to me, I started shutting my mouth on my habitual responses. I started treating him the way I would treat everyone else. And slowly but surely our relationship shifted. Today, I enjoy being around him again and I am so grateful for a growing closeness (hopefully he feels the same).
I believe that if I had spotted my limiting beliefs around parenting earlier, our experience with our teenager would have been shorter, less intense and much less expensive.
I want to help other moms who are going through the same experience. I can’t guarantee any change in your teenager, but I can help you find more calm and peace in the midst of the chaos. I can help you release your own limiting beliefs and emotional charges that keep you stuck in patterns that don’t serve you. By changing your story, you will have more confidence and clarity on how to help your teen.
To this end, my new book, Surviving the High School Years with Your Sanity Intact: A Guide for Moms with Out-of-Control Teens is now available for pre-order on Amazon. It will be published officially on April 11. In the meantime, if you would like to discuss the situation with your difficult teen, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.